Others are not throwing tantrums because they are in clash with us but they are throwing tantrums because they are in clash with their own self.
They are not coming to fight with us. They are coming to get that love, acceptance, validation and appreciation, which they are not giving to themselves.
When we are vibrating in self-love then we can fill others also with understanding, love and acceptance with ease. This heals the other also.
Take care of yourself to take care of others.