Self love is Godliness. This is the only purpose of life.
If you have complaints in you from others, whether they are genuine, then also Self love can never be felt.
Either sort out the situation or let it go the same moment when complaint arises. Mind multiplies every thought, whether it is complaint or love.
If due to some situation complaint arises and it remains unresolved then this one complaint will multiply and very soon you will realise that you are having complaints from many.
Complaints are solved from the zone of nobodiness. There are many methods, tools and therapies which help you to get rid of painfull zones.
So, resolve it immediately. Now in clear mind you can put the nectart.
Self love can be felt only in Clean and Clear mind.
Loads of love